I wish there was a right way to have sex—a perfect, works-every-time method for how to have the best sex of your life. A position? Type of partner? Emotional connection? There are so many articles claiming hook up sex is the best, but just as many saying relationship sex is the only way. I had to find out the truth.
C’mon, ladies. Would you rather be a porcelain teacup or a red solo cup? My friend recounts the words of her high school health teacher and I shudder. I’m disappointed and appalled by the blatant slut-shaming young girls are being fed. Authority figures are supposed to educate with logic and reason, not through cheap scare tactics. But I can’t say I’m surprised by any of this. Since the dawn of time, female virginity has been socially constructed in a way that male virginity has not. Archaic cross-cultural thinking has persisted throughout centuries as women are generally expected to remain “pure” until they are married.
The first few weeks of college are a whirlwind for every new freshman. Endless parties, tons of new friends, and a chance to break away from whomever you were in High School. It’s a fresh start, a place for reinvention and creativity. For many students, it’s also a chance to explore their sexuality. For many straight students that may mean downloading Tinder or Bumble on to their phones. However, for many gay and bisexual men that exploration is often done through Grindr.
When someone is attracted to you romantically, you would think that he/she/they would think you’re perfect in every way, shape, and form, right? Well, no. I certainly thought so, but I was in for a rude awakening. Really, it was super rude.
There you are, sprawled out on Mike from Finite Math’s twin bed. You never thought you’d get here. What began as an innocent invitation to study has become a hot and heavy sexual encounter. Mike is hot as hell, so let’s go full speed ahead. Plus, Mike insists he’s really good at giving head. Alright, let’s see what he’s got. Wait, no. That ain’t it. What the fuck is going on? Mike has no idea what he’s doing. What are you gonna do? Lay there and just wait it out? Pretend you’re into it? NO, you’re gonna show Mike who’s boss and tell him what to do.
“When we fail to define womanhood, we tacitly allow the systematic infantilization of women; we fail to elevate them from girlhood.”