Are we all just searching for validation?
By Christian Decker
By now my Instagram, and honestly just my personage in general, has become kind of a meme here at the paper. However when I started using Instagram at first, it was completely by accident. I originally wanted nothing to do with social media, and looking back it would probably would have been a lot better for my sanity if I hadn’t gotten involved in the first place. My friend actually made my account for me, and as a result, I didn’t really use it much. As time went on, I did begin to post more stuff on there-events and the like, ever so often.
Funny thing about it is, social media becomes a tool that many people– including myself– use for validation, even from people you don’t know orhardly speak to. Seeing that like count go up on a guitar video or a selfie that I postcomeswith a sort of rush, which usually quickly fades out. I usually try to post stuff that is interesting to me, mostly a lot of the music that I’m currently listening to, and of which I am painfully aware that no one else really likes. Such is life. It was recently brought to my attention that posting random screenshots of metal songs wasn’t really going to help me. I, honest to God, deleted anything that had to do with them. Now, I try to post pictures of myself looking kind of decent just to give myself a bit of a confidence boost.
You hear a lot of how social media can be a very toxic place, and I imagine that is the majority. For me the experience hasn’t been either, it’s just kind ofthere. Posting on Instagram to help with my self-confidence issues hasn’t exactlyworked. Finding out your ex-girlfriend is in love with the guy she had drunk sex with two months after she started college and how everything seems to just work better with him isn’t exactly a recipe for self-confidence. Although I’ve improved, my mindset isn’t exactly the bright and chipper self that I usually am working in the print shop or around the Fordham campus.
Perhaps my Instagram is really a facade for trying to deal with the emotions that I’ve been repressing all the time, in order to not let people down and be a hard worker. In all honesty, I’m not even sure myself. I’m not entirely sure if I have a specific social media strategy or if I’m posting just to post or see if I can get validation from people. I mean if you want to hear my political rants and or darker thoughts, just follow my Twitter (editor’s note: follow his Twitter, it is great). If anything, my advice on social media is to really make it your own for your own needs, and don’t let yourself need to be validated. Do what you see fit because at the end of the day, it’s not the end of the world if you don’t get a lot of likes on a picture.
I don’t suppose when one of my Editors-in-Chief asked to hear about my social media strategies, this is what she was expecting (second editor’s note: I didn’t, I dig it regardless). Nevertheless I hope it helps some people on the interweb reflect of their social media use and what they can do to make their experiences more positive. Never be afraid to take some time to focus on yourself. As the old airplane adage goes: help yourself before you try to help somebody else.